What's Better Than a Baby?

Julia sent this recently be email. She said I could post it here:


From: Julia
Subject: What's better than a baby?

TWO OF THEM!

Just two short weeks ago, we found out that Javi's birth mother is pregnant with Javi's full biological sibling. She contacted us through a lawyer (as we are not in direct contact) to say that, if we are willing, she would like us to adopt the child. The answer was, of course, a resounding yes. The baby is due November 17th (yes, in 4 weeks!). And we could not feel more blessed.
As you may remember, the path to Javi was also only 6 weeks, so we consider ourselves pros at this process. And I CANNOT imagine ever having to wait an entire 9 months.  It would drive me up the wall!

FAQ's
Gender?
We have no idea. I don't know if we will find out before the baby is born or not.

Do we have to do the homestudy again?
Yes! Can you believe that! But this second one should be a little more abbreviated.  But we will surely be racing the clock to get it done and processed before the birth

Does it cost less to adopt a sibling?
Yes. Because there is no need to go through the process of trying to match families.  Additionally, so much of the paperwork is already processed.

Baby names?
Again, no idea! we just have to get this homestudy processed and arrangements made and OMGish there's so much to do.  I don't know when we're going to name this child! But for now, we refer to him/her as Baby Dos (Two in Spanish).

Are we in touch with the birthmother?
We are not.  We would like to be, but she is the one who gets to determine her comfort level with that.  She is not comfortable with it at this time

Frustrated?
Many have asked the question of if we are angry at Javi's birthmother for waiting so late, for thinking of us as a back-up plan, for getting pregnant again, for putting too much pressure on us to adopt.  The answer is "No."  In the end, for us - the answer of adoption was a simple "yes" or "no."  The answer has always been "yes," and for that reason alone, it doesn't matter what inconveniences Javi's birthmother may have caused us. This situation is also not uncommon in the world of adoption and there are many, many, many families that would LOVE to be in our shoes -  to have this opportunity.
I cannot imagine the scars that Javi's birthmother carries from placing him for adoption. I cannot imagine what a second will do to her. I cannot romanticize her experience, nor can I be mad at her about it.

Javi's birthmother already has two children that she is raising.  Part of placing Javi for adoption was to protect her first two children from the financial blow a third child would create for the whole family unit. I respect her choices and I respect her as a fellow mother.

Registered? 
At Target. You will probably laugh at our registry, because it's just diapers and such. Sort of boring.  But it's what we need bc we already have everything from our last baby, which, may I remind you, was only 18 short months ago.  Good God - Two children under 2 years old.  This is going to be crazy-town!


Got anymore questions?  Ask away.  You know how we love to talk and talk and talk about adoption over here!!!!

Love to all
-Julia (and José and Javi, by default)