Past, Present, and Future

Starting the blog four weeks into the adoption process means that there's so much story to tell, but I can't see waiting until it's all written down to finally get to where we are right now. So, here's a current update from Julia that went out by email. I promise to come back and tell more of the past at sometime in the future, but for right now here's the present.

Some background info: We've been waiting for a few days to hear if we're the family that birth mother "Marsha" chooses. We're hoping she likes us, and there's some urgency because the baby is due April 1st. "Mary" is our contact at the placement agency. Below is what Julia has written.


Just got off the phone with Mary.
breathing.
still no solid answer
However, i do have an update.
She talked to Marsha this afternoon and Marsha said that her parents are coming in town this weekend and she woudl like to go over our letter with her parents.  If her parents feel good about it, she would like her parents to contact us.
So, we don't have an answer, but I feel so grateful that her parents are helping her.  And i do hope they would like to meet us.


Mary says that she feels like Marsha will contact her back on Monday, though she doesn't want to promise this to me.  She did communicate that Marsha came to them initially with some urgency and she feels like that is still present.


So, still no news of if this is a definite 'GO!' or not.
But I suppose all will reveal itself in time.
And there is always more patience to learn.


Love you all so much.  I'm so glad we have such a close-knit group to take this ride with.

The Kick-Start Call

We started filling out paperwork for adoption on Valentine's Day 2009. Then life got in the way - things got busy, priorities shifted, uncertainties loomed. It was a call in January of 2010 that shook us back into the reality of becoming parents. Apparently my mother had been asking everyone she met on her travels: "Do you have a baby in need of adoption? My son and his wife are looking. They would be great parents." Someone finally took her up on the offer and called.

The details were a little sketchy, but it sounded like the baby was due in just a couple of months in Puerto Rico. We had no idea how to adopt from Puerto Rico. We couldn't really get very good answers about the process, either. One thing was clear, though. We had to get our Home Study done as quickly as possible. Julia found an agency that could expedite our home study, but it also sounded like there was going to be a significant wait time no matter who we went with because of the backlog in FBI background checks. Yes, we were going to have to get fingerprinted. More on that later...